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Post by Mr. Gordon on May 26, 2004 1:09:52 GMT -5
thanks for the concern ladies. but i guess im going to withdraw and go with my gut.
i guess if i wanna be with the woman, its gonna be less friends, zero pot (aka, not enough, and its funnest with my friends) working 40 hour weeks + school while travelling a 4 hour bus ride every weekend somehow).
without the woman, i can, well, do more of the things i truly wanna do.
the very thing she's been telling me for 4 months.
ah fuck, am I really scared of committment?
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Post by layla on May 26, 2004 1:12:07 GMT -5
Gordo, everything Slick said in her first post I'd have to agree with. I don't know what to say. I know its a tough situation, I think we've all been in that kind of relationship where it becomes very confusing. But don't blame yourself. You shouldn't have to change for anyone b/c you're great the way you are. I wouldn't have proposed to you if you weren't great, you know that. Maybe its just a crossroads for the two of you? It doesn't have to be the end. I hope you do work it out though b/c she sounds like a great girl & you deserve somene like that who keeps you happy.
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Post by Mr. Gordon on May 26, 2004 1:14:32 GMT -5
im an extremist, and i take things to the furthest extreme to get the truth.
but i really dont think im truly selfish. lazy and not grown up, yes, but not selfish.
my gut is telling me to take a little break. but my heart can't devastate her like that.
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Post by layla on May 26, 2004 1:16:15 GMT -5
Later Gordo. You'll know what to do. Good luck & stay smiling
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Post by Mr. Gordon on May 26, 2004 1:17:35 GMT -5
ah i dont want to make her sound insane.
if shes insane im insane too!!!
relationships make people insane.
relationships are pretty insane.
i guess im confident i'll come to wise conclusion.
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Post by Slick on May 26, 2004 1:18:47 GMT -5
gordon, it would be more devastating to her for you to stay with her if your heart isn't truly in the relationship.
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Post by layla on May 26, 2004 1:20:00 GMT -5
I don't think you're being selfish at all. You're both young & the fact that you're so concerned with how she'll take it tells me that you've got a good heart. I had a similar thing when I was 19, I'd been in a relationship for about 14 months (not that long, I know). It seemed fine on the surface, but he wanted me to be this girl that I'm never going to be (ie not a tomboy dork) & I was going along with it until I thought "why am I living my life for someone else? If I died tomorrow & looked back would I like it? No" And I don't think thats selfish, I think its realistic. You have to make YOU happy b/c there is only one person who will be there your whole life & thats Gordo.
Sorry for all the corny words. Stay happy dude
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Post by Mr. Gordon on May 26, 2004 1:21:46 GMT -5
ah, interesting, but im not so sure Slickster. part of the reason im not one to compromise in this thing. and also part of the reason i haven't ducked out yet. I aint found the truth yet.
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Post by Mr. Gordon on May 26, 2004 1:24:29 GMT -5
thanks Layla.
thanks Slick.
the jury is out. More cigs will be smoked until a decision is made. stay tuned while i make my personal life a text drama.
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Post by Slick on May 26, 2004 1:26:05 GMT -5
gordon, if you feel that you haven't found the truth yet, don't make an irrational decision that you'll end up regretting. maybe it would be a good idea just to take some time to yourself..not break up with her..but explain to her that you need some time to think things over without any outside influence. really weigh the pros and cons of being with her, and see if it's worth it.
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Post by layla on May 26, 2004 1:29:44 GMT -5
yeah, thats a good idea. Take a break, pretend you're single & see how it feels. See how you feel not having her in your life in an unofficial way.
Take care guys! Nice talking to ya & Gordo - enjoy the golf course & yacht!
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Post by thorny on May 26, 2004 10:40:41 GMT -5
im an extremist, and i take things to the furthest extreme to get the truth. Man, that describes me to a T Gordo. I want you to know I feel for ya. Been there. Heart broke. Ain't fair. No joke. Relationships do seem insane, it's like -- how in the hell do you make one work (especially if either 1 of you or both are, say, idealistic, nonconformist, individualist, etc-? You know what I mean? It's like, the only relationships that I have observed from a distance that seem to last 4ever, are the ones between complacent, status-quo individuals who seem comfy in their routine-type, accepted-by-society roles. I'm not knockin' it -- each to his own, right? But what do the rest of us do . . .? *sigh* [glow=red,2,300]I'm going to sit at Thorn's table & drink my moccachino & roll some fat doobies with him. Oh yeah. [/glow] Now that's a perfect suggestion! I'll match ya Layla.
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Post by Mr. Gordon on May 26, 2004 14:25:10 GMT -5
thanks Thorny.
I feel better today, i was probably just overreacting, but i gues i couldnt ignore my feelings. sometimes i am a drama queen.
i'll see how it works out.
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Post by phaet on May 26, 2004 15:05:22 GMT -5
i would never expect the great one to change who he is or how he thinks.
hahahahahahaha, she's actually doing it! I'm lovin' this.
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Post by Mr. Gordon on May 28, 2004 0:30:19 GMT -5
for some strange reason, me and the lady always seem to make things seem really OK after some good talks.
we both seem to have come to a good middle ground.
im hoping it lasts a good while and isnt some temporary fix...
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